Let's face it: We live in a culture where judging others tends to be the norm.Whether we are people watching, reading the latest celebrity gossip or chatting with our coworkers about the new guy, we all fall victim to these judging tendencies at times. When you meet someone new, a slew of conscious and unconscious judgments rise to the surface. There is something to be said for having great instincts and intuition about a person's true nature.In fact, they're usually more than happy to offer their services.However, if you or your opposite-sex friend are only participating in the friendship because of these "perks" (it happens more often than you think), then it's more of a business arrangement than a friendship. Although other people's opinions shouldn't matter, they can still be problematic.Rather, by “friend” I mean someone you deliberately choose to spend one-on-one time with.Likewise, I’m also asserting that a man can’t truly be your friend if he secretly wants to date you.As her best friend, it's understandable that you want what's best for her, but leave his sexuality out of it. It doesn't mean that they're gay; they are naturally more sensitive, understanding and in tune with emotions. And even if you talked with her, it doesn't mean she would listen to you.If your friend and her boyfriend are thinking about moving in together or talking marriage, ask her why she thinks he's a good fit for her, what qualities she loves about him, if and why he makes her happy, if he respects her, treats her well, etc. Sometimes we have to step back to let people decide what's best for them through experience. Be happy for her, and support her in her relationship.
Quite simply, for the sake of our future, the Friend Zone must be destroyed.All of that sounds pretty similar to a relationship, no?It just further supports the idea that an opposite sex friendship always has the potential to develop into something more. No matter how much guy/girl best friends deny it, there's always some degree of attraction that exists between them.One of the best ways we can do so is by reversing the trend of Americans waiting longer to get married. Every year, countless young men find themselves trapped in the Friend Zone, a prison where women place any man they deem worthy of their time but not their hearts, men they’d love to have dinner with but, for whatever reason, don’t want to kiss goodnight.So, apart from tearing down America’s institutions of higher education, which tend to slow down the recitation of wedding vows, how do we do that? Being caught in the Friend Zone is an inarguable drag on fertility rates, as a man who spends several years pledging his heart to a woman who will never have his children is also a man who most likely won’t procreate with anyone else during that time of incarceration.